For us, because our situation was so unique (we were surrogating, we hadn't intended or planned on another child, but the intended parents backed out leaving us to make life and death decisions for the baby) our families became very vocal and interjected themselves into the decision making.
Even though we never asked their opinions because we had already made our minds up - we would be keeping the baby - they gave it and continued to do so in not so nice ways. Both of our families were adamant; They wanted us to either give the disabled baby up for adoption or terminate, mostly the latter.
Bluntly, they were awful. Like me, they were uneducated. But unlike me, they had no intention of educating themselves. We encouraged them, sending them links to videos, blogs and support groups, but they seemed stuck on the thought that having a baby with Down syndrome would ruin not only our lives, but the lives of our other children. It was of no use and it felt like we were being disowned or the pregnancy ignored.
We hoped that once Delaney was born she would change their opinions. That they would love her and see that she was more alike than different. That she was a life worth living and that she would not ruin our lives, but enrich us all with love, understanding and compassion.
After Delaney was born most of them started to come around, you see Delaney is pretty hard to resist! Some still struggle even today. We show them compassion.
Today, I realize they were just worried for us out of love, but at the time it was offensive!
We want to hear your stories. How did you family react? How Did Your Family Adjust or Accept Your Child?